Hi, I read and I cryed..Not much help,But I hunderstand.I am Heading that way myself with my step child who refuses to eat.....Is 12 and 55 lbs,He already gives me lip at every oportunities, not doig what he's told  and not chy about it at all.He just tells me off, he won't do it!! My counslers are telling me to be more patient!!!All I want to do is smack his foul mounth.

But I will tell you that it takes two people to fight,and that it maybe time for a new approch...get some rest,,if you can,,remember you love him(right back at me!!)

 good luck

Hie,thank you. I am so exited about this website. All my life I felt like I was passing something by,,I always wanted to help others,but in the same token,I need help myself( so bad)..I cried my eyes out for the past,9 yrs..

but you maybe my answer so again thank you

Linne

Hi,I'm 39,a heart broken mother of four. Only one of my children lives with me.      She moved in with us a few months ago after spending 9 years under her father's care in Quebec,Canada.It took her that long to gather all of her courage and tell someone she wanted to live with  me...and actually be heared!.  I love her and I am so happy she is here.However, the transition has been so difficult for all of us as to be expected when a new member is added to a familly (now 5 members).But it is getting easier every day.My darling princess daugther has been diagnosed with severe emotional disorder;with all of the laughter and turmoil that it includes!!  And here I was all those years feeding on Social Workers and lawyers (and paying them too)telling me my kids were happy and well and that I needed to let go...!!!.-It turns out the truth is way different-the step mom over there is way to young to know how she is affecting my kids.And the dad thinks hes a Psychic and hearing voices is OK..

I just wanted to do the right thing.I wanted my kids to know their dad, be loved by him..I was stupid, and now I don't know what to do..I have been in the fog since a judge wouldn't give back custody to me after an intership (5 months long away from home).  Custody I voluntarily and temporarily gave to the dad..Lots of things and court dates came and went since.And now with all the therapy and horror stories my baby girl is telling I fear for my angel boys..You should see them they're so cute,who could want to hurt them..I just want to eat them, you know!!

Well Ironicly I am  paying child support the same now I was when all four kids lived with him even if my daughter is here and my older son who's 18 now lives on his own. ha ha I cannot do a thing **Life is tough, I thought I would have alot more by this time for my kids .Its just hard not to be disapointed in myself. I really hoped I could be able to help them more,I'm working so hard.( just step down on my hours at work to be with my kid more and it shows where it hurts)

I don't know why I am writing maybe just to vent; the thruth is everyone around me are ears out with me,,I didn't have much time for friends so I am always talking to co-workers..